Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Then There Were Two

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I am a stay at home dad...kind of. My job as a director in a non-profit, human service agency affords me the chance to be home during the day. I get my work done by phone or computer and if need be get my sister or sister in law to watch my two boys if I have a meeting or emergency. My son Matt was born 5 1/2 years ago. For his first two years on earth it was just me and him, Monday through Friday, in tandem. We went to the gym together (him in his "carrier" 'till about ten months), ate meals together, napped together, golfed together (once again, him in the carrier or in the stroller. Yes, I pushed a stroller around the golf course!) everything together.

When my son Peter was born three years ago, he joined the "boys club". Three of us, all day, playing, living and learning, but most of all, loving. This past summer the "boys club" was in full swing. Trips to the lake, "bear hunting" in the park (before you call PETA, it was pretend), thousands of pitched baseballs, bike and Big Wheel rides around the block, lunch at the driving range. We even, on occasion, let a girl into the club named "Mommy" who joined us at the beach, on the golf course and even a trip to ride the swan boats in Boston.




Summer is ending and fall is on the horizon. Now the "boys club" is down to two. Matthew started kindergarten last week. On his first day of school we walked him 1/4 mile up the hill to his new club. He'll make new friends, learn new things and live a new life filled with new and exciting experiences. Me and Pete will be back at home running the old "boys club". Just me and Pete. Going to the park, playing ball, eating PBJ. It won't be the same without Matt, but different isn't necessarily bad. Matthew and I had two years alone in the club without Peter wherein we got to know each other unlike no other. We mimicked each others movements, words and emotions. Now I'll get to know Pete in the same way. The "boys club" will live on for two more years until Peter makes that walk up the hill in the waining days of summer. Then we'll close the doors to the "boys club", but not for good. The club will be open on school vacations and from June 21st until Labor Day for the next 20 years or so. After my boys are done with college and make their way out into the world I hope they'll take some time and revisit the "boys club". Hopefully we can keep the "boys club" going indefinitely. It'll always be open for business

14 comments:

Suldog said...

*sniff*

Hey, Cuz, no fair making me cry.

Mushy said...

Yes, my sentiments exactly Sul...those are great shots, but there's something so sad in all three. Won't be long he won't want you around that close, or he'll be driving off without you!

Ramblin' Rebel With a Clause said...

Beautiful Neighborhood.
It is tough to let 'em go off. Tough decisions. I always corrected people when they called me "Mr. Mom", I made me it, I am the Daddy dang it! I would offer to demonstrate the lack of feminine features if they would need an object lesson. One decision we made was to both stay at home and school our kids. Never a dull moment juggling 'em. We may as well be a not for profit, no more corporate pay checks, it's all out the window as soon as it comes in. Check my gardening blog. No politicin' there.

Rebecca said...

GREAT pics. And a great post. It's going to be good for your youngest to take advantage of some of the "one on one" that your oldest got in the beginning.

You are so fortunate to get to spend the kind of time with your kids that most dads -- and most parents -- dont have the opportunity to do. :)

eastgram said...

Nice post David! Enjoy every moment because once they start school, the time flies! It seems like only yesterday , you were that little boy. Nice Red Sox backpack.

Chucka Stone Designs said...

I don't even have kids and this made me all teary. Sounds like a pretty exclusive club and one that all 3 of you are happy to belong to.

David Sullivan said...

Mushy: I purposely chose these pics because they reflected my feeings. There are some happier looking pics of that day that reflect his excitement. He is pretty blase' about the whole thing.

Auntie Carol: Its about the same distance walk for Matt as it was for me going to FDR.

Thanks all!!!

Dirty Red said...

Good post man.
Damn, you are making me want a son more than ever after reading this.

Teresa said...

What a sweet post. Your boys are lucky.

David Sullivan said...

Teresa,
I'm suprised you'd even leave the house with the Colts 1-2(just kidding :)

Suldog said...

Cuz - Come on over and claim an award :-)

Melinda said...

*sniff* How beautiful! I'm sure you and you boys will always make time for your Club.

claire said...

awww. I love the quintessential sox hats!

Anonymous said...

hey david matti haoldong his head down on the first day of school kind of looks like jeremy when dave and I dropped Jeremy off @ JWU funny right around the same day Just many years apart 18 right!